Over the past year my son and his wife (of almost 20 years) having been having a messy seperation. I would rather not go into details, but I have learned things about her that I wish I hadn’t. I’ve loved her like a daughter and now I can’t make myself talk to her even for the sake of the grandkids. Maybe the fact that I still love her is part of the problem. For many reasons I can’t avoid contact with her. Even though I am on a daily dose of xanax, I am having serious panic attacks when I see her. They are incapacitating and have to end. Any ideas.