If Your Pregnancy Was Planned, Do You Feel The Stress Of Trying To Conceive Delayed Your Conception?
Everyone keeps saying that the stress can affect your ability to conceive. Just wondering if anyone charting and doing all that you can do to increase your chance of getting pregnant actually conceived despite the stress of trying to conceive? Or did you only conceive after you have given up?
15 Responses to “If Your Pregnancy Was Planned, Do You Feel The Stress Of Trying To Conceive Delayed Your Conception?”
Dec 23rd at 11:27 am By: Mona
with my 1st 2 i wasn’t tryin and it happen so quick.. the 3rd time i was trying with no success.. then when we finally gave up we went on a getaway to relax and I wasn’t even thinking bout getting preg.. I ended up gettin preg on our getaway.. I lost that baby at 23 weeks in September.. I’ve been trying since I got the ok from the dr. with no luck.. I try not to think bout it or let it get to me but it’s so hard.. i want to b preg again so bad.. you would think I would learn huh… well if i’m not preg this month then i’ma take a break.. me an the hubby are goin on a trip for our 1 year anniversary.. i’m gonna try not to think bout it but i’m still keepin my fingers crossed in the back of my mind….
good luck to everyone ttc.. I hope we all get what we want so bad..
Dec 23rd at 3:58 pm By: Mommy of 1
I don’t think that stress hurt us. After waiting for 4 years to TTC I read “The Fastest Way to Get Pregnant Naturally” and got us both on vitamins. months before trying. I got pregnant 2 months after we started TTC, and I didn’t even do the charting.
Dec 23rd at 9:11 pm By: ljb
Stress did not delay conception. It took about a year after I started charting, but I was not timing things well at all for most of those cycles. (Incidentally, charting was a godsend for me, since I learned that I typically ovulate on day 20 of my cycle…if I hadn’t charted I’d STILL by trying!) I had multiple losses, and believe me the stress we went through far, far, far exceeded the stress of “just” trying to get pregnant, and you know what, I still got pregnant without much difficulty.
I don’t doubt that stress *can* be a factor, as we are learning more every day about how stress *can* muck up just about every aspect of our health. But when I hear people suggest, or explicitly say, that people who are trying should “just relax” because it’s the stress that’s preventing pregnancy….I want to throttle someone! I know stressed people who have numerous kids. I know relaxed people who don’t use birth control and don’t have kids. I know people on both ends of the spectrum. In other words, this is another thing people try to make simple and “black and white,” but it isn’t!
If you’re trying, and you’re stressed out, you should try to find things that will relax you — because it’s good for your overall health and for your physical and mental well being. But not because you should expect to be pregnant the moment you give up!
Dec 23rd at 10:53 pm By: ava 27/08/08, 2nd due 11/05/10
im 100% thats what happened to me, with my first pregnancy i was so excited and we conceived straight away but i lost that baby and after that i was sad and i wanted to be pregnant so bad… i used to stress myself out big time and i charted when i was stressing and then it hit me one day that this wasnt actually doing me any good and i stopped all my charting and ovulating tests and i got into the mood where it will happen when the time was right and that very next month i conceived…. it took us 5 months but after i relaxed it happened the next month. good luck
Dec 24th at 2:19 am By: Kellyn25
With my first we tried for almost a year!!!!! And I was stressed, and charting everything.
This time it came 6 months sooner than we would have liked. I was doing the calendar method, since I did not go back on the pill after our first, and we thought it was our safe time, I conceived 3 days after my period ended!
Dec 24th at 2:51 am By: Melissa S
I conceived after giving up. We tracked for 6 months with no luck. I went back on birth control, took about 9 months off of ttc and became pregnant my first month off of bc this time. I had it stuck in my head that it would take another 6+ months so was completely shocked when I didn’t even get my first period off of bc. I even made my preconception visit with my midwife for after we started to ttc only to find out that I was already pregnant the day of my appointment.
Dec 24th at 8:56 am By: Mrs. K
We TTC over a year. During those times I was stressing more than usual. Kept waiting and waiting for the day, but the longer it took the more stressed out I got. We kept on trying, I started to relaxed a bit more and it finally happened. Couldn’t be happier.
Dec 24th at 3:34 pm By: Kaden's Mommy
Well, for me when I got married at 18, we tried to have a baby 4 months later… I kept trying and trying and never got pregnant, then I was told to stop thinking about it so much and then I got pregnant. When I was 12 weeks I miscarried. The doctor told me to wait 2 months before trying to concieve. We waited the two months and then started trying again. The stress of possibility of miscarriage and “when am i gonna get pregnant” took its toll, too. It took 1 year and 4 months of unprotected sex for us to conceive again, after we decided it obviousely wasn’t the right time, and when it happened it was a complete shock, but we were so excited. So, if you just go with the flow and say it will happen when it happens, then it most likely will happen sooner. Stop stressing, and good luck in TTC
Dec 24th at 7:03 pm By: Margie H
yes, I’ve heard this before. It could be some other reason, too. Sometimes planning this kind of event doesn’t work. You can listen to ;the doctors and do what they say, but don’t stess out about it. May the stress is on the male side. Did you ever think of that? When it happens, it happens. Don’t put pressure on him either. Just be happy! That’s what a baby needs anyway. Good luck!!!!
Dec 24th at 7:29 pm By: ProudMom
i agree with it… but it didnt take me long..after 5 months of trying i came to the conclusion that i was never going to fall pregnant because period just kept showing up..so when i gotmy -period- of month 5.. i decided i was going to go make an appointment with the doctor she sent me for blood tests and stuff like that.. a couple of days later she called me back saying.. did you know you are pregnant? turns out that month 5 period was actually spotting.
Dec 24th at 11:36 pm By: Sonya
I was lucky. My husband and I decided on the date to start conceiving about 6 months before we started. By the time we started trying, I’d been off birth control for 3 months already.
We started trying to conceive on January 1st. I found out I was pregnant on February 16. We had conceived on January 31st, the very first month we were trying.
So we were lucky! I hadn’t started charting, but I was using ovulation testers. The funny thing was though I used them every day, I never showed the surge that indicated that I ovulated. Obviously I had ovulated though or I wouldn’t have gotten pregnant!
Dec 25th at 5:08 am By: (:
Well for me I was trying for 15 months..setting times to have intercourse and so on..it was stressful and the love making was not as fun it kinda felt like a chore to my husband! We totally forgot about trying to make a baby and really just gave up one month later I was pregnant! I think if you just don’t think about it and stop using forms of birth control you will be more likely to get pregnant…that’s just my experience.
Dec 25th at 11:14 am By: Wordpress Autoblog Software
For me I STRESSED out about it alot and then we went to Mexico for a week and I really didn’t think about and when we got back a week or so later I found out I was pregnant so I REALLY BELIEVE STRESS can do many thing.
Best of luck
Dec 25th at 3:50 pm By: mommy lobo
when i was trying to get pregnant with my son, someone told me to stop “thinking” about trying to get pregnant. so i figured i would take the advice. when my husband and i would have sex, i would say in my mind over and over again i don’t want to get pregnant…sure enough a month later i was pregnant. not saying it would work for everyone but it did for me!!! good luck
Dec 25th at 7:59 pm By: Vada83
My husband and I tried for 6 months, I would cry everytime I got my period like someone died. It was horrible, so one day we decided to stop trying and just take it as it comes. Later on that month I found out we were pregnant
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